The Golden Rule: If you're going to communicate in a world that no longer requires you to have a face-to-face presence, learn to do it well! Say what?! I know how this sounds, because we literally have to change who we are to communicate in a technical world. In other words, we have to learn better grammar... we have to learn how to express ourselves in a texty kind of way, AND we have to basically become novelists, and be good at it. In other words, I can speak to you in my voice but I need to literally go from, "Yo, dude!" to "Hello, kind dear world!"... although I'm sure most would be fine with the "Yo, dude"...
... AND, especially, if you are a woman. Emotions, ladies... they'll get you every time. BUT...
... how do we learn to disconnect from the emotions long enough to reflect personally so that our communication isn't affected by rash actions due to our emotions (this affects men as well)? Most importantly, how can we ensure that our communication doesn't hit the wrong note with others? Let's pull the plug on the world for a few minutes, because the truth is... no matter what we type, no matter how hard we try to relay it in a unemotional tone, human perception will relay the message differently to each individual. This includes how we communicate with others... We are always going to be two universes that spin around one another. Personality conflicts are a force unto themselves, and yes, they will always happen...
For example, depending on how you're feeling right now, you will look at the following phrase as a mirrored reflection of your inner self. Here's the phrase:
"Hello! I'm so happy to see that you are reading my words right now! I Love you!"
What can help change the person's inner reflection is by reading or hearing something positive! By changing the waters, we help to encourage the feedback that we are going to receive from others, but this is easier said than done. What's more important is how we reflect our thoughts to others in a nonjudgmental manner to ensure positive growth in all forms and reflections. Positive reinforcement and stating things in a manner of, "I" statements can change the world... For example, if you are giving criticism:
"I personally would have done the following steps to ensure success in this situation." or "I would have chosen to involve this other person/team in order to ensure success in this project."
... and always end with, "We all make mistakes, let me know how I can help to make sure that we keep on the right path for continued success."
If we view everything as a failure or in a negative way, we are always setting each other and ourselves up for failure. I have personally taken this role in my life in working with others, to show that we are all on different levels in our lives, but the message is all the same. We can communicate in a positive way and we can bring positive and reinforce positive change in our lives, by doing just this action... Don't believe me? Try it!
We need to personally disconnect from the world to reflect on our inner emotions and allow ourselves the opportunity to accept and process the emotions that we are having. This will allow us to stop moving forward with "Grrrr" and more of a happy way of doing things. Remember happiness is a choice, and how we are inside will reflect on the outside and will encourage others to mirror back or own emotions as well as attract negative aspects of others towards us. So choose the Happy Face!
Things to remember:
1. Feel that emotional bubbling of anger? Excuse yourself or walk away from the situation immediately.
2. Feeling depressed, sad or angry? Take a few extra minutes to process what you're going through before proceeding with your day, and let others know that "trigger" you in a certain light to keep their distance for the day, or gently ask them if you could speak with them tomorrow.
3. It's okay to walk away or remove negative elements, situations or people from your life in terms of self growth. Yes, it is completely acceptable to Love yourself enough to step back and say this is enough. Do what is in YOUR best interest. You are important... what you feel matters, allow yourself to be who you are. Accept you for you.
Love, Light and Healing!