We will spend a lifetime learning personal acceptance on the many different levels and life experiences as we allow our inner selves to emerge without fear and find that level acceptance or belonging with others to where judgments don't exist as only open arms a mother would have for a child. I do believe we spend a lifetime looking for the arms of our mother again on the most intimate of intimate of levels. We desire that connection, it's more than primal… it's not even just spiritual… that connection is everything, we yearn for it and we spend a lifetime seeking it. In other words, we are always searching to reconnect with the loving light (as a child to a mother) that connect us all, I wonder how much would change within us if we knew that we are exactly that? Loving light, all connected… we are even the creators of our own environments… so how do we go about taking down all of these external blocks in our creation of being in this moment to get back to our inner core? With the Internet age being upon us and growing we have the blessing of reaching out and finding tools online to help with our development, but let's never forget that the first step comes from within you. That first step is forgiveness and acceptance! We can't change our past, but we can change our here and now. When you hear the phrase, "Live for today"... they are not wrong!
With all of these realizations in mind, it's easier said than done to forgive ourselves for our mistakes in life, as well as the confusion and patterns brought forth due to external factors. We are in a constant repeating cycle, a life giving process of taking down the blocks that society, culture, religion and family have placed upon us in the hopes of finding that which has been forgotten. We may all forget who we are from time to time in our life, it's how we deal with it, learn and accept these experiences that help us grow. Without the baggage in life, we wouldn't be very wise, would we? I literally spent over ten years of my life questioning everything, asking myself what if and I became a very angry and depressed person who lived in the past rather than in the now. I wasted so many years trying to figure out how to fix the past that I missed all those years focusing on what I could have done right here in the now. Luckily, I figured that out... a little late, but what matters is that I did figure it out! Now, I would like to ensure that you, my friends, don't waste anymore time on what could have been, and focus on just simply being here in the now. Learning to let go of all that was and who we are with that so called baggage is a pretty big deal, so how do we do it?
Everyone is different, but what helped me is that I took myself out of my own personal shell to be in service of others to reprogram those blocks that were stuck and turned them into a positive building block, transforming the negative into a peaceful mirror. We as women are nurturing, we are mothers at an instinctive level… so by reaching out and extending my Love on a greater level than myself or my own personal needs and by touching my community, I found my path and I have accepted myself on a level that I didn't know existed. It's truly amazing to go from the need to blame others for that which I was mirroring from myself to seeing my true reflection and knowing how to accept and transform those aspects about myself that I didn't want to accept. While others will become angry or even find any method to bring you down to their pain/sadness level, we have to remember that this is their mirrored reflection… we all have our own path, turn every experience into a life lesson rather than rejecting that, which must be learned. Acceptance becomes a deeper reality for all of us, and at some point it becomes a Universal Truth.
Our feelings are worth self-validation, but your anger, jealousy or negative feelings towards others should never be validated or reinforced in any way. Instead... ask others to help you find the answer within you as to why you reflect those feelings towards another person. True friends will help you find that answer and take the time to get to know you, asking the right questions and never judging you for being who you are, so take the time you need to find those people that are right for your life. Don't confuse what others judge your fear as, but that which dwells within. Learn to Love yourself, even your fear and forgive yourself for feeling it... at the end of the day what matters is your own perceptions. People often turn to others to answer questions about their faults, fears and what these other people would consider "appropriate" behaviors. When humanity realizes that they have every answer within them, the world will become a better place and they set forward on a path of creating new patterns… Evolution is a beautiful thing.
At the end of the day, who is the one that stands out? The person who allows their life to be dictated by others or the person that stands apart to make a difference and simply be themselves, even if they choose to dance with the flow of life around them? Isn't individuality the concept of the age, after all no snowflake crystal is the same? What would you be willing to do to stand apart from the others around you to accept yourself for who you are? What personal validation do you need to be the empty cup?
Sending much Love out to all of you on your path. May your path continue to be well lit! *big hugs*
It takes courage to walk the path of being your authentic self. Shine, shine, shine!
Disclosure: This article and the contents herein are not intended to tell you how to live or change your life. The intention is for you to find information that you can take or use by your own choice in your current life to make improvements with your own personal growth.